What I choose to become

"I am not what happened to me.  I am what I choose to become."
~ Carl Jung

"Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out."
~ Art Linkletter

At first read, I thought these two quotes were dialectics, that is opposing sides of the same idea. But reading them over and over, I think they are saying the same thing. That while we often don't control what life puts in front of us, we do control what we do with it, how we approach what life puts in front of us.  Making the choice to focus on what we can control, even if it's only our response or reaction. Effective.